Boss dating an employee
When dating a colleague, your days of gossiping with coworkers about your love life are over, says Williams.Since your partner is someone else’s coworker or boss, create some ground rules as a couple about sharing personal information.According to a Career Builder survey of more than 4,000 workers nationwide, 17% of respondents have dated a coworker at least twice, with 30% of those relationships leading to marriage.After all, you can’t always help whom you fall in love with.“We spend over 70% of our time at the office,” says Nicole Williams, Linked In’s career expert.“Your boss will find out anyway and you want them to be confident that you'll behave in a professional, ethical and responsible manner.Your boss can even help to create personal and professional boundaries.”How do you treat your partner at work?“Respect your coworkers and remember that the office is a place where people come to work.” Since physical contact with a romantic partner in the office can make people feel uncomfortable, err on the side of being conservative.“If advancing professionally is important to you, really think about how others perceive you,” says Lachapelle.
You could get fired.”Being involved with a coworker can potentially jeopardize business objectives or be a distraction in the workplace, says Jolynn Cunningham, director of talent at Indeed.
“There are certain prejudices against people who are romantically involved with the boss—people would question promotions and raises.”Even though everyone’s fair play if your company doesn’t have a policy, Williams says that it’s difficult for a subordinate to consent to a relationship with a supervisor because of the inherent pressure and influence of his or her advances.
“Your company is the one that pays the harassment bill and insurance doesn’t cover it,” says Williams. “If you think you can hide your affair from your coworkers, think again,” says Williams.
Also keep in mind that your company can access your work email, so don’t give the company tech support new reading material with your love letters. Lachapelle suggests keeping your personal life private and to consider how the relationship could affect your reputation.
“You don’t want the reputation of the person who dates around—take into account your role in the company,” says Lachapelle.
If you’re not going against company policy, the relationship isn’t with someone in your reporting structure, or won’t cause additional strife in the office, share the information with coworkers organically and not with an announcement at lunch or a public display of affection, suggests Cunningham.