The game while dating
But being in healthy relationships, whether platonic or romantic, is an important part of everyone’s life: They allow us to be vulnerable and intimate with someone else, and they bring us joy.
But how do we meet people we want to spend much time with? According to the Pew Research Center, more than 15 percent of U. adults say they have used either mobile dating apps or an online dating site at least once in the past.
In the techno, hetero and same-sexed dating world, many people are looking for a “fast sexual hookup” without responsibility, love, connection or obligation. The “swipe apps” where you quickly choose, “Are they Hot or are they Not? It’s sad because you may conceive they are truly interested in you and in having a real connection, but instead, waste your time when you could focus on someone genuine.
It’s a very dangerous, toxic pattern that innocent people can get caught up in quickly.
This used to be called a “booty call.” Anyone texting you for attention after 9 p.m., don’t answer; anyone texting you after 11 p.m., block their number.I see these poor victims in my office who are concerned over this person, “wondering if they had an accident, or some horrible mishap.” Nope; they just moved on to the next score.Unfortunately, people tend to do breadcrumbing to seek attention, without commitment. If not having sex upon the first meeting, one partner will give their prey plenty of flirtation and attention, until they get sexual; and then throw out some attention, such as Likes on your social media, or a random text hello – just enough to keep you on the line for another fast hookup.Be honest and straight-forward with those you date; if you are seeing other people, say so.If you are dating for the hope to find an exclusive partner, or for marriage or a family, be honest about this.
That first hiatus lasted about three months, and since then I’ve had an on/off relationship with dating.